“now! listen here! I’m very different! the me i have different views from you. the me i have played a whole different kind of ground that you do/did, the me i here believes what he thought so is always right, the me i here cannot be challenged at all … at all … at all i repeat!”

Nah, just a shout out … Owh well, what a statement, isn’t it? “happy?” as Dr Saied always mentioned. Lets continue …

and you see, we all like to be liked, we have faith in our believes, the principles so called … the Ego “Me” is above all, and somehow, yes, people surround you got to be on the same channel, like you, that tuned into the same wavelength.

You have friends that care as well as the opposite. Some people can talk the whole day without wondering if he is talking craps that in actual fact, every statements of theirs, we questioned and most probably, your writer here “me” now is practicing fairy well.

“Even those who say they don’t care, they do. We are people pleasers, because we know in being liked, it validates our self worth.”

Perhaps we may not care what everyone thinks about us, but we have the selected few who we care about and whom we care what they think of us. This is particularly true for youngsters who are trying to find their place in the world, and look to their peers and authority figures for confirmation of their self-worth.

We care about opinions of us to varying degrees. Some people try to keep everyone happy and therefore themselves liked, but appreciate that it’s almost an impossible task to have no enemies.

Then there are some people who are so consumed with what others think of them, that they spend so much of their time worrying (and misinterpreting) about how they come across to the people around them.

The perception’s phenomenon of trying to be liked …

We want to manage (read: control) how people perceive us and our actions. We want to present to everyone that we are nice, kind, generous, tolerant, capable, charming, cool and collected, bla bla … We want to be seen to be a good person, or at least good at whatever we are doing. We want to be valued and appreciated. We want to be liked.

That in itself wouldn’t be a problem if we can handle the fact that we won’t be liked by everyone all the time. Sounds obvious, yet by the actions of those around me I see that this fact is easily forgotten. There are two fundamental reasons why everyone does not love ME all the time:

You can’t control how others see you. People may dislike you for varying reasons, sometimes beyond your control. Jealousy is a good example.

You are not perfect. I know it’s difficult to accept, but you are not perfect and that’s not a realistic standard as well … You may do silly things that creates problems to those around you. OK. Stupid thing to do, but move on.

So … don’t manage your perception, let it be. And just be. Feel the sense of freedom … release and be a you you wanna be. And if you find that you aren’t really the person you want to be, then make genuine efforts to become the person you want to be, rather than merely adopting the persona of who you want to be.

& i’m telling you now, nothing beats this crap below. it’s either you die faster or you stay happy! yea!

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